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Title: Head of the Household
Post by: Danny on February 15, 2010, 08:55:49 AM
Can someone direct me to passages that clearly teach that the man is to be the "head of the household"?  I have heard this talked about often, but I would like to find where it is clearly taught in Scripture.
Title: Re: Head of the Household
Post by: Zaph on February 15, 2010, 10:52:08 AM
1Co 11:3  But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

1Pe 3:6  Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.

1Ti 2:12  But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.
1Ti 2:13  For Adam was first formed, then Eve.
1Ti 2:14  And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.

Of course a lot of people will argue that Paul said this only in context of his current culture. However, you'll read the verses given and even go back and read the verses in their context you'll see that he gave only theological reasons. His counsel was not based in culture.
Title: Re: Head of the Household
Post by: Danny on February 15, 2010, 12:35:23 PM
Thank you Zaph.  This gives me something to look at.
Title: Re: Head of the Household
Post by: John Oscar on February 15, 2010, 05:00:06 PM
Eph 5:22-6:1

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 "For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh."  32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. NKJV

From years of marriage counseling I will say this- most of the time that men complain about their wives not submitting to their authority is because they give them nothing to submit to.  Husbands are to be Jesus to their wives, loving her above all else (save God).  

If all men would do that, women would fall all over themselves to submit and serve.
Title: Re: Head of the Household
Post by: Zaph on March 24, 2010, 11:45:14 AM
John, I am curious. Do you know of any good books that have layed out Biblically the different roles in marriage without being biased one direction or another? It seems that most books these days blame the man for everything. Now don't get me wrong the Biblically speaking the man has a huge and important role to play. But I'm not convinced that one role is more important than another.
Title: Re: Head of the Household
Post by: John Oscar on March 25, 2010, 10:44:48 AM
I'm not meaning to be simplistic, but the bible is the best book there is.  Much of what is passed off as a biblical study of marriage is stuffed with new age or popular opinion of what people think marriage should be.

A study of the NT will show you the boundries and what God considers His will for our "roles" in the marriage relationship.
Title: Re: Head of the Household
Post by: Zaph on March 25, 2010, 12:34:20 PM
Understood. Can't get a much better reference than the Bible itself.